Cursive and brain science

I believe the purpose of school and education is to establish brain circuitry that enables our children to absorb and evaluate information, make choices and act upon those choices. So – does cursive have a role in wiring the brain?  If yes, then it likely needs to be taught.  If no, then it’s an antiquated tradition.  Today, I explored the science, rather than the opinions. 
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Sometimes, you just need to go splat

My sons have become very strong skiers with more than a little daredevil in them.  It comes naturally - both my husband and I love to ski, ski fast and hard, and invest in lessons for the kids.  The boys have reached the point where we can spend a day skiing with them and do some challenging runs that are fun for everyone.  And the boys are doing them faster and faster.  In fact, they didn't really realize the ramifications of going fast. Until this past weekend...
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Bailing out Dads

Luckily, very few of my friends have gone through a divorce, but right now, a good friend is embroiled in a messy one.  It’s been going on for over two years and I’m wondering how the legal system works since it seems to be failing spectacularly in this case. Recently, he had to be bailed out from jail, twice, from false accusations. And it’s their children getting hurt. My friend is a deeply involved and highly effective father - his children adore him and behave well under his supervision.

On the surface, it should have been a clean divorce.

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Surprising (not really) ingredients for success in school

I've spent the last few days at the first cross-movement conference for Jewish Day School educators - as a lay leader, certainly not an educator.  It's pretty cool to observe from the inside the thoughts, challenges and aspirations of people in North America, Israel and South Africa who have committed their lives to Jewish education. The evening keynote featured a renowned scholar in the study of education - Dr. Lee Shulman from Stanford University and the Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching. Dr. Shulman has studied the educational process of creating doctors, lawyers, nurses, clergy and more - but his talk was easily graspable by a lay person like me. And his lifetime of research discloses some very obvious, but odd ingredients for success in school.
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Creating rituals and memories

In my mind, there are a series of memories I want my children to recall as adults. Baking challah every Friday for Shabbat where they do the braiding and the smell fills the house. Making homemade chocolate chip cookies from scratch (which entailed finding a recipe we like - thank you Trader Joe). Skiing together in Big Sky (or any other mountain). Some memories I try to create proactively and others I hope to remember from the moment.
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Magic - a magnetic Chore Board

It was time to do the right thing and anticipating whining and battles, I decided to get serious about the children have chores to do. Everything I've read says it's good for children to have responsibilities at home - chores. And while I wanted my children to do certain chores, I dreaded new battles or extensive administration to achieve this goal. A few weeks ago, wandering through Target, I decided to experiment with a Chore Board.

The first two weeks of the Chore Board experiment are a tremendous success.

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Understanding my parents

I spent an inordinate amount of time in my twenties trying to understand my parents. Until I had children, it was a pretty futile sport.  Not quite sure why it was so important anyway but I felt that understanding my parents was a path to understanding myself. It was much easier to do once I had a child.

Over our ski vacation, I had another epiphany about my parents that made me smile - I realized:

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